Hello to all my lovely sugahs ❤

Happy new year!! Welcome-back to another lengthy post on the thoughts within my head.

As usual, my blog is just a fun place for me to use as an outlet and whenever I have something on my mind, I use this platform to put the thoughts into something creative.

Working the majority of the time and spending time with the ones who mean most to me, I had a lovely / low key Christmas and New-year.

What was a year that I would be delighted to not repeat.

Don’t get me wrong, 2017 had some good moments; I turned 21, got some unreal opportunities and visited some pretty fun places. Met and started talking to some pretty cool people. I also learned a lot about myself this year and what I’m looking for in life, I have matured massively. But in the grand scheme of things, 2017 also had some… not so good memories and turning points.

 

 

So going back to the point of learning a lot about myself and maturing. What have I learned from myself and my situations and from those around me? (Disclaimer – I am no expert, these are just little lessons I have learnt and have seen the light on.)

 

Approach:

If there’s an issue, let’s speak about it in person or on a phone-call. When having an argument, get off the social media, so many things can be misinterpreted over the likes of Messenger / WhatsApp / Snapchat.
Also – stop jumping to the defence.
This time last year if I was having a difference with somebody I would go straight for the excuses and blaming the other side.
Listen to the other side of the situation and take the persons feelings into regard. Think – maybe I have actually done wrong (nobody is perfect) admit your mistakes and find a calm / positive way to move on that suits everyone.

On the flip side, if you have the issue and would like to address something – you may be angry but trust me, if you go off the wall and do something nasty, it will say more about you then it will about them and you side of the issue will get tarnished. Don’t get mad and don’t get even. The situation will sort itself out and if it doesn’t then trust me, you will get to say your piece, but that piece may not be listened to if you’re roaring shouting.

Mé Féin:

If somebody is upset about something – let them be.
Try not to relate to someone else’s situation with something based on what happened in your life and bring it back to yourself.
Sometimes there is nothing you can say to someone other than nothing at all, just be there for them.
If you tell them not to worry about something because it is irritating you at how much they are talking about something, it is not always that easy.

Put yourself last every now and again, people sometimes really need a shoulder to cry on and need to be made felt that there is someone there if they were to fall.

 

Self care and self love:

Why yes I did say above to put yourself last sometimes but I didn’t say to put yourself last all the time – life is all about balance after all.

If you are not being treated the way you feel you should be, don’t tolerate it. Stop giving fourth / fifth / sixth chances.
Life is too short to be hanging with people who aren’t on your vibe and make you feel like you are less than you truly are.
It is within my nature to make an effort with people, to say hello to everyone, to be loving and to always give another chance – sometimes to the point where it feels like I am being taken for granted because I love being there but if you make it apparent to me that you do not like who I am for some reason or that you don’t want me in your life – no hard feelings because I am not going to cling on.
Now in saying this, I am not a hateful person – I genuinely wish the best for everyone, I just mean in terms of give and take when it comes to treating people on a daily basis.

Take time out sometimes and just plan to do absolutely NOTHING. When not done all the time, lounging around can be one of the best feelings.

Look at memes, watch videos of dogs, listen to your favourite music (even if it is the guilty pleasures).

Sometimes you just need to take care of your body, mind and soul.

 

 

Work hard, play hard:

I worked full time in a hotel in my town over the summer and this Christmas just gone and I learned that yes – you may have just worked a nine hour shift – but just go out, go hang with your pals!! you may be tired in the moment or you could have work at 9am but just trust me, you might make some good memories. Some of the best situations I have experienced this year was when I would finish work at 10, run home / shower / get ready – go out and have one of the best nights.
Also, you get some good skills at getting quick ready.

 

Final point:

Stop suppressing and start facing:

Okayyyyy here we go again; easier said than done.

But even with the finer details, try not to put it to be back of your mind and act like you’re okay. Try to implement little thoughts where you just say how you’re feeling or what really is on your mind and tell somebody.

Talking to someone can be so important – it lifts the weight of your shoulders.

If I don’t feel like talking and my mind is running a million miles a minute (I have actually done this), put your headphones in – go for a walk and put your thoughts and problems on the table.

Think – 1) what is good in my life at the moment? What am I grateful for? What do I have that others don’t?

2) What is bothering me, what is my problem, what issues do I have going on in this moment in time?

3) How can I fix / solve / ease the pain perhaps even slightly of each problem one by one.

You will feel a lot better!

Lots of love to everyone always, nobody knows how happy it makes me when somebody reads these – it makes me smile and laugh to think that someone is reading what I am typing in their voice or in their head.

I hope everyone stayed safe this Christmas and new year, until the next post –

Here’s to 2018!

 

Ali ❤ x