In a previous post, I talked about how I have learned (or my eyes have been opened) to a lot in the last few months.

Life has taken a swift turn in the last few months. I have realised a mind-blown situation in terms of my life.

You see, this time last year the ones close to me would call me by the name ‘Lisha’. But now, the nickname ‘Ali’ has just caught on.

Ali – the reformed Lisha if you will.

 

You see, Ali does things right by herself – works hard, puts her physical and mental well-being in first place.

I (try) not to get caught up in the little things and I look at life more on the bright-side and finally, I try to see even the smallest amount of graciousness in everyone.

My new attitude (lease of life) has made me happier within myself.

(Alitude – Ali’s attitude, get it?)

Would you like to know some of the things I have started to change? No? Okay well I am going to write about them anyways.

Leads me onto my first point.

1. Stop worrying what everyone else thinks – 

At the end of the day, there is allllllways going to be somebody out there that has something to say about what you are doing or who with.

For whatever reason, maybe it is an insecurity they have within themselves so they have to trigger at an individual who is is enjoying them self.

But anywho, that is my point – if you stress over the thoughts of others who just judge then what is the point, you are just making your life that little less more exciting.

Go for pints with your pals even though you have work in the morning, start a blog, dye your hair blonde – who cares? after-all, it is your life.

2) Put your physical and mental health first –

I have started meditation in the last 6 weeks or so and I am really enjoying it. I read poetry and the news daily.

Go to the gym, work on you.

Grow your mind, body and soul.

Love yourself internally and externally.

Food, skin, walks, thoughts, surroundings, knowledge, music, love, dogs, every inch of goodness.

3) #GVZ

I like to call this one the good vibe zone.

Surround yourself with people who make you feel like you don’t have to act different around.

If someone is not giving you the right vibes, you are old and bold enough to say au revoir.

I know that sounds quite cold and I don’t mean it that harshly but in life we are going to drift apart from people so just understand that it happens and if they really care about you, they will come back and perhaps ye could sort out the issues but then again, don’t attach yourself to toxic vibes.

4) Do a good deed.

(without sounding like the biggest narcissist ever) I believe that I was put on this planet for a reason. I have a purpose.

On the daily, I think about how I could change the world or even better, how can the world change me.

Today for example, an old man at the train station could not find where to enter his ticket to access the train, it was 12.18pm (the train was 12.20pm).

I was standing from a far but people were just staring as he struggled to find the ticket slot. In fear that this adorable man would miss his transportation, I ran over and helped him. (yes, he did make the train).

Any simple act of kindness can make someones day.

Then – an elderly couple saw me stand underneath the board which displayed the times of each train and offered me one of their seats.

Karma can be good.

Now I understand at the beginning I talked about that you should not care what people think, but then above I say to see the good in everyone – two very different things.

Everyone has something good about them indeed but one of those things may not be their intentions when it comes to you so try to stay wary and not to get walked over, I have learned this the hard way in the past.

 

5) Say what you feel.

Please do not bottle things up. If you have a problem with somebody, just say it.

You think an individual looks good today? Tell them.

Life is wayyyyy too short to be playing the guessing game and for you to try and make people read your minds. That just make life more difficult.

Now approach is massive here, of course if you are upset then you should be allowed to express that emotion but just be mindful at how you come across because people can tend to flip the situation and make it look like you are the one in the wrong.

Also, if something seems like it is too much drama for your liking, don’t let yourself have to carry that load.

Your life should be full of the balance of laughter, productivity, sleep, snacks, water and as I have said over and over again all of the good stuff.

 

Fifteen year old Alisha would the proud of the lady she is becoming. Good vibes always.

 

Life for me is not about living in the past and dragging it up daily. It is about learning from it and moving forward.

These are the cards you have been dealt. How are you going to make your next move?

 

 

 

Ali X