At the ripe age of 22, I feel like I have endured my fair share of dramas, mis-haps and tough times but in saying this, I feel like all are lessons learnt. Whether I caused these things to happen or not.

I believe we can all do with some home truths from time to time.

If you’re anything like myself, you try to see the best in people in all situations – which may cause you upset then because they do not reach your positive expectations.

If you find yourself going through a negative path in your life, reading some of these things I had to learn, may help your mindset when healing from a situation and coming to a solution in moving on with your life.

1. It’s not always about yourself.

Essentially saying that people don’t always act in a way that you would, don’t take it too personal when somebody hurts your feelings.

For me, this is the worst and the first one.

When someone does you wrong, they make a decision based on temporary emotion, they do not put your feelings into thought.

I think people our age forget that every action, has a reaction.

I’m not giving anyone the benefit of the doubt, but people act in a manner sometimes based on who they are at that time of their lives, in time hopefully they can mature but you need to understand that if they will do you wrong, someone whom they said they wouldn’t, they would probably do it to anybody.

You walking away with your head on your shoulders will feel a lot better in the long run as in time, this person will realise they did wrong but it won’t be you there to help them grow.

2) People deserve to be happy, whether that means you’re in the picture or not.

It might not be the outcome you wished for, but in all honesty – everyone deserves happiness.

Sometimes acting out of anger or gossiping, makes you look worse than the parties who turned things side-ways for you.

Let them move forward, if someone is the cause to your well-being being strained or tired, than honey – YOU DO NOT NEED THAT.

Stop b**ching about them, asking questions, following their feed – move forward and smile because after-all, that is the healthy way of moving on.

3) People are allowed to have an emotional opinion.

Granted – that they are involved in the situation. People need to stop with the ‘you can’t be upset about that’ because ‘blank’.

If you feel something, express that opinion but to your inner circle only. Anything outside of that comes across as bitter. When you express this, then you can move forward the way you know how.

There is sometimes nothing more healthy than being honest with yourself.

In saying that……

4) You CAN BE IN THE WRONG.

Sorry to say it, but we all aren’t perfect.

You need to admit when you are the one who did the hurtful thing.

Apologising to someone and actually meaning it, owning what you did. Can have a great impact towards an individual moving frontwards.

I used to always think I was never wrong….. As you can imagine, that went down such a treat (lol).

Growing and becoming the person you want to raise you children, be there for your friends and your family. Building a life for yourself. Finding the one. Is all about self-reflection. Lesson learning and the over-coming the physical and emotional obstacles we face on the daily.

At the end of the day, we aren’t in any rush. It will all fall into place.

We focus on the bad too much sometimes and forget the good that came out of the situation.

You are way too good and authentic of a human to wonder and worry too much about other people and why they don’t treat you the way you deserve.

Love,

Ali xxx