Firstly, hey there to anyone who actually reads my blog posts. Hello to any new readers that may have stumbled onto this blog post due to the dark hole of the internet. (or to those of you lovely people who I have on social media or the people that I might have plagued to read this).

Anyways this blog post I got the motivation from being on a train earlier today and a lady who I was sitting beside, complimented the jumper I was wearing.

The jumper was nothing really, just a coral coloured knitted woolly from penny’s. But that wasn’t the point – the lady had told me that she really liked the jumper, it looked cosy and it complimented me.

Something so small can really make somebody’s day shine so brightly.

Here are a few ways I like to make the ones I care about feel special or just somebody I could possibly meet in the line of a shop.

 

Compliments –

 

You see something you like on somebody, say it.

You even know yourself how good you feel when somebody comments nicely on something you do / say / wear.

Now I don’t mean in a creepy way – just a light comment on the way a person may have done their hair or the shoes they are wearing.

That makes the person feel a tiny bit more confident knowing that even one other person may enjoy it also.

I am far from saying that you should walk around and that you should be throwing compliments like they mean nothing – that way it comes across as fake and un-genuine. But I am sure you won’t find it hard to tell somebody something nice about them.

 

Everyone deals with self confidence in some form or another – but if you show them that everyone has something about them that stands out then trust me, you will really make their day.

Compliments should be given out a lot more, just try it with one person a week and not only will they feel better, you will too.

Do a good deed –

Again, you can do something major or something so so small. Either or – you are making the world a better place and you a creating a smile on other beings face.

A good deed can be something like if you see somebody drop their purse, pick it up and run after them.

The same goes if you find €20 or a larger sum of money – do not just put it in your pocket and assume it’s yours. The environment or the facility you’re in – drop it in with your name and number to the person in charge and if the person may then come back to claim what is theirs.

I know that is a gamble as the person may never receive what was theirs and you might never find out – but know yourself that karma always comes around and you did the right thing.

Sitting on the train or a bus? Offer the person beside you one of your tic tacs or snacks, they could reject but they also might chuckle and sure isn’t that better than nothing but silence and looking out the window.

Gots your charger? Using it but you’re on 60% and your friend beside you has 15%? Offer your charger to your amigo, they definitely need it a lot more than you.

Of course, it’s your charger; of course, you’re heading out and you need all the battery you can get before ye head to Coppers and for the Snapchat’s – but if all goes downhill you will be thankful that the person you went out with has enough battery to answer their phone when you lose them in the club or when it’s time to go home.

No night out is guaranteed safe – so make sure you stick with your travel partners (or at least make sure you can contact them).

Invitations –

 

I don’t think sometimes people realise how much an invitation means.

Okay you may be having a big party / prinks or gathering – but sure what’s two extra people?

Even if it is just a few people going for food in the evening.

If you have two girls or even just one boy in your class that you don’t talk to all the time – that doesn’t necessarily mean that they do not like you.

It just means they haven’t had the proper opportunity to get to know you and excluding them from your event is just making the situation worse.

Yes you might not talk to this individual or in the past you may have not gotten along, but just look forward – everyone is going to be there and the vibes you create will vibrate.

There is nothing worse than everyone talking about an event that you weren’t even invited to – purposely leaving somebody out is not kind at all.

You have the upper hand in this situation as you’re having the party or you are a person in a position of saying ‘hey, would you like to come along?’.

Even if they do not attend at least you tried, it is the invite and thought that counts.

Offering to do something –

Going to the shop or back to the bar for your next drink? Offer the person or small group you’re in company with if they would like something.

That way, it saves journeys and the person looks at you like ‘hey, that’s so kind’.

Okay – it would be hard to buy 8 drinks in one go and bring back so it might be easier to just ask that to one or two people but even in terms of going to the shop – maybe a packet of ‘haribo’ wouldn’t go astray.

I am not saying to do these things by the way to get credit from others, you do not want people to think you’re a pushover if you do it every time either but if you are already doing something than it would not be that hard to grab an extra thing or two.

Also – you know from the person before you would even ask if they are the type of person that would do the same for you.

Not even when it comes to buying stuff – bring a glass of water into your friend when they are in bed, turn off the light at the other side of the room or even just quickly run to the kitchen to get the laptop lead, two seconds of barely doing something to someone who is just very tired could mean quite a lot.

The little things –

Hugs:

Ask for a hug, give a hug.

Hugs are so meaningful in the cutest way. If someone is upset, feeling down or just tired, a big hug can relieve a lot of stress and put a smile on their face.

Not coming empty handed:

Going to a friends house? Meeting some new people for the first time? New housemates?

Go to the shop, buy a packet of cookies and pop on the kettle.

Finally my fave, but ‘Follow up with a message’:

I say this is my favourite because it really is – there is nothing nicer in the world than kicking it back with someone for a few hours, catching up, messing around and receiving a message from them a small while after ‘had fun’ or ‘must do again’ so on and so forth.

Not even after hanging out – if you haven’t heard from someone in a while and you miss them (but they don’t message you) don’t be petty – just bite the bullet and tell them you would like to catchup.

Okay – if it is romantically than fair enough, you don’t know how you feel and you do not want to lead them on but that’s for another blog post. (lol)

Leaving things without a follow up can end weirdly as that is when mis-communications start.

Disclaimer – especially Irish people but in general, us humans have a tendency to give and do nice things / say to others but we find it difficult on the other hand when receiving, so do not take offence when someone reacts oddly to the way you expected.

They might not be used to this hence the step back in reaction. Know for sure that they will appreciate in time.

 

 

WOW.

how do people even read my jabber sometimes? if you have made it this far, thank you so so much!

It means the world to me that people read what I write, this is just a past time and for you to be reading this and using my experiences / advice into your daily life puts a smile on my face that I can’t even put into words (I usually have a response most of the time). 🙂

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Lots of love,

Ali xx